Letting go of equality

There are many challenges and many blessings that come with having twins. One of my biggest fears when I was pregnant with my twins was making sure each baby got enough love and attention, I thought I needed to make sure everything was equal. I sometimes thought that I wasn’t going to have enough to give. And honestly I still deal with this feeling some days, I think about which one did I pick up first last time they were both crying. Which one did I take out of the car seat first last time. Which baby got to snuggle next to me in bed in the morning yesterday. Which baby got their favorite toy last, (because you know they always want the same exact toy). Did I play patty cake with both of them the same amount of times. The list could go on and on, and honestly it’s exhausting. But you know what I’m forgetting, they are different people with different needs, at different times. Last month Abbey would love to lay on her mat and look and reach for all the toys and Harper would get bored after about 5 minutes and want to move on to the next thing. And now that Harper can crawl she can play with one toy and when she gets bored she can crawl to the next toy so she doesn’t need as much attention at this phase in their lives Abbey needs more attention because she isn’t crawling yet. Also Abbey loves when we read books Harper just wants to eat the book or move on to something else after the first page.

Just because they are identical twins doesn’t mean they have the identical needs.

They’re two different people with different personalities and different needs.

There’s going to be days like today where Harper needs almost all my attention because she is sick.

And you know what, that’s ok.

It’s not like Abbey is going to say to me in 10 years, Mom there was this one day where you paid more attention to Harper than you did to me. Haha. It’s ridiculous that I even think about these kinds of things but I totally do.

But I just have to keep reminding myself. The Lord gives us exactly what we need to mother the gifts he gives us. One of my favorite authors, Priscilla Shirer says in her book, Resolutions for Women, “when you choose to give, He promises you’ll have enough-more than you think- filling you back up with even more than you had to begin with.” She goes on to say, (I’m changing it from hypothetical to a command), “When you are required to give of your time, your love, your resources, yourself, be secure in the knowledge that you possess enough to do it.”

How refreshing and awesome is that! I love it.

Have any of you other mommas struggled with this?

7 month update

Abigail Lynn
Weight: 18.6

Harper Grace
Weight: 18.2

It happened!! For the first time ever Abbey weighs more than Harper!

What the twins are wearing
The girls can squeeze into 6 month onsies but pretty much only wear 9 month clothes now. And their chubby chubby legs barely fit into 9 month rompers, which I am realizing I almost always dress them in rompers I just think they are the most adorable things ever.

Eating
A day in the life of my twins eating schedule looks like this.
7am wake up and nurse
9:30 nurse before take nap
11 usually mashed banana for lunch
1:30 nurse before nap
3:30 nurse
5:30 purée for dinner (favs are carrot, peas, sweet potato, apple)
6:15 nurse before bed
Anywhere between 2am-4am they each will wake up once to eat.

Sleeping
The babies are still doing the same with sleeping, going down around 6 waking up usually once and then sleeping til about 7am. About 50% of the time Abs will sleep straight from 6pm til 7am and the other 50% of the time she will wake once during the night to eat. Their bedtime routine looks like this.
5:30ish eat purée for dinner
5:45ish baths in the sink
6:00ish get lotioned and jammies and daddy reads them a bible story
6:15ish nurse
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Favorites
Now they are getting older they have different favorites. Well some things they both love and in some ways they are starting to differ. I have always predicted Abbey would talk first and Harps would walk first which I’m realizing is probably going to be true. Abbey loves to talk. She will say dada, mama, nana (we call my mom Nana) I don’t know if she connects what she is saying to the person she is saying but I think she might. When I went in their room to get them from the crib yesterday I opened the door and Abbey looked at me and said “Mamamama” oh my goodness my heart was in a puddle on the floor. Harpers favorite this is crawling, she does this hilarious half army crawl half real crawl, where she’ll crawl once normal and then belly flop and crawl once army crawl and keep going back and forth. She also loves attention, I mean both of them love when people stop and talk to them but Harper is a major ham, instant huge smile and everything. Abbey will first stare and try to figure you out and think about it for a minute and then decide to smile. Another favorite they share is excersuacers. Having twins is crazy expensive so I wasn’t going to go and spend $100 bucks each on excersuacer but we have been truly blessed by amazing friends who have let us borrow theirs.

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We took them swimming for the first time this month and they absolutely loved it! They are major water babies. Here’s a few pictures of us swimming.

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Accomplishments
Well the talking and crawling I mentioned above are probably the biggest accomplishments this month. They both still only have the two teeth but I feel like they have atleast two more that have been trying to break through for ever!! Oh and they pretty much can totally sit up on their own. They are at the age where I can lay them on the ground with a few toys and they will play for about 15 minutes so I can fold laundry or clean kitchen, which is so awesome!

Challenges
I have been incredibly blessed to have my mom come and help me, but I guess the challenge would be that for the last couple months now she is coming for just a few hours once a week or so. Which is still an amazing blessing and is actually really great because I am feeling more confident in taking care of the babies by myself for the 24hour shifts that my husband works. Some days are great and I feel like I rule the world because I can take them to the store and get some cleaning done all by myself but then some days both babies want all my attention and it’s not possible to satisfy both of them and it’s really hard. But I like trying to handle everything on my own and I think it’s getting easier the more I do it.

My Favorite
I think the challenge and my favorite thing this month are the same. There is something very empowering and encouraging knowing that God has given me exactly what I need in order to be enough for my children. Joyce Meyer says, “you’ve been divinely equipped to overcome any kind of trouble. It means you can face life with boldness and say, “Nothing in life can defeat me because the Greater One lives in me. He’s provided me with everything I need to handle what He has called me to do.” My other favorite from this month is that we went on our first family trip. Which I put a post about a few weeks ago.

Weekly Pictures

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Favorite Pictures

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